Tough Questions Kids Ask
January 2006: Parenting Blunders
How should you respond when your children notice your mistakes and sins?
As Pastor Fred notes, a child's parents are the most important teachers he or she will ever have. Mom and Dad, as primary role models, have a tremendous amount of influence over children, with ample opportunity to shape their attitudes, values, beliefs, and behavior. Unfortunately, though, we make mistakes that children observe, and even mimic.
In her article "Whose Child is That?" which appeared in the Fall 2005 issue of Christian Parenting Today magazine, Karen Morerod suggests five steps for parents to take when children notice their parents' shortcomings and imitate their bad behavior. First, admit your mistakes to your children, showing genuine regret. Children will respect your honesty. Exemplifying forthrightness also teaches them to honestly admit mistakes they make, and gives them the message that an occasional blunder does not spell tragedy. Next, encourage your children to imitate Christ, letting Him set the example instead of you. Thirdly, pray for help with your limitations and weaknesses. Next, especially as children grow older and more independent, allow, the Holy Spirit to guide them and their decisions and behavior. Finally, don't let guilt over your bad examples drag you down. Know that you are forgiven.
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